Our first weekend in Lent and journeying together in the Lent Devotional for Women. I thought as part of our Daily Devotions for Lent we would spend a little time with this verse from Mark, “Have a good heart, it is I, fear ye not.” (Mark 6:50) Another translation reads, “Calm down! It’s me. Don’t be afraid!” (GWT)
Friends, not only is this a lovely verse of encouragement from our Lord’s lips to our ears, but it’s also daily encouragement or a daily affirmation we can repeat to ourselves. Can you imagine the boost in our spirit if we would tell ourselves, “Calm down Jenny!” Or “Jenny, don’t be afraid!”
Lent Devotional for Women: Holy Ordinary
I know this isn’t news to you but, the world is not going to encourage us. A few people in our world may, but as a whole, not only will the world not encourage us, it may even discourage us.
We can use the dailiness of life to encourage ourselves by repeating, “Have a good heart,” or “Calm down, don’t be afraid.” Depending on the circumstance, we can imagine these words either coming from our Lord or the Holy Spirit inspiring us to encourage ourselves.
Either way, this Lent Devotional for Women focuses on us being our own cheerleaders or at least regulator. But cheerleader sounds way more fun!
The first baby I had without an epidural was my third. As I was intensely laboring through Pitocin-induced contraction after Pitocin-induced contraction, I would vocally tell myself, as I lay gripping the bed rail, “You’re ok. You can do this.”
I used every contraction as an opportunity to encourage myself with those two simple sentences because labor is scary…and hard. Life is scary…and hard.
Although I had great nurses and Chris, I knew what I needed to hear most, so I said it to myself. We can’t expect others to cheer us on if we don’t do it ourselves. You might want to read that again and let some people in your life off the hook! We also can’t expect others to understand our anger and fear, if we don’t at least try to as well.
In this Lent Devotional for Women, let me ask you, what have you been afraid of this week? Whoa! “Who said I was afraid?” you might ask. Stick with me ok.
Years ago I read that many times, behind what looks like anger, might be actually fear, (this is especially true for men according to this report). So let me ask you again, “What have you been afraid of this week?”
Think of the times this week when you’ve responded with anger, was it honestly fear? Afraid of losing control, looking foolish, being judged, dreaming big (ahhh…), being used or unappreciated…I’ve acted out in anger this week over money and time–or lack of time. But from the outside looking in, my husband and children probably don’t realize it’s fear. I probably wouldn’t know that if I weren’t trying to be intentional.
Here’s another question to think about in this Lent Devotional. Has there been a time this week when someone has acted angry towards you and you’ve reacted, not responded?
See, it’s easy to respond–anger to anger. But it’s just as easy to respond to fear with compassion and patience. Thinking back, could their anger have been fear-driven?
Now, let’s ask ourselves, how could my reaction have been different if I considered them “afraid” verse “angry?” And please realize, there is a difference between reacting and responding. Responding is an act of the will, a decision to remain or behave in a certain way, regardless of the circumstances.
When I read that verse above, I think of our Lord telling me, “Fear not, it’s me. Have a good heart in this situation, or with this person.” When someone approaches me with anger or reacts to me in anger, if I can stop and see Christ in them, “It is I…” I am not saying an angry Christ, I am saying, if I can recognize that person was created in the image and likeness of Christ, maybe I can look past their angry emotions to love them as Christ loves them.
Maybe knowing someone might be afraid, but their fear is showing up as anger, maybe that could make all the difference in the world in how I respond to them. I hope these devotions for Lent are challenging you, but also encouraging you.
Many times this Lent, we will see our sacrifices and mortifications look very ordinary…remember, holy ordinary. And yet they can be so powerful in transforming us in love this Lent.
The sullen teen, the impatient toddler, the stressed husband, the rude person on the phone…each one of these people offers us a chance to practice BIG love, in a little way…for Christ.
Did you read yesterday’s post? Click here to read Lent Devotional for Women: Friday After Ash Wednesday.
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Health, Wellness and the Enemy
I will honestly admit that before I started using essential oils–high-quality essential oils versus something sold next to the MM’s at Walmart, I took some concerns to my spiritual director. He laughed, set them all to rest, told me to sniff some Lavender and enjoy the gifts of God. You can read more here, Health, Wellness, and the Enemy.
wow! anger is usually fear hiding,,,never thought about it that way…God bless you for that message
You are so right Jenny!! i am now at home with Michael and it scares me, it scares me to the core to fail, to fail him, my husband, his birthmother who trusted me, and my God who akso trusted me with being his mama. I lash out in anger at the littlest things and I have started to notice thst. Thankfully the Lord keeps sending me reminders of his love and that He will not abandon me and leave me to figure it out alone.
Thanks be to God for the little reminders to help you and all of us stay the true course. Claudia, God knew what He was doing when He made you Michael’s momma, trust in that and trust in Him♥
Thanks for the new perspective on anger. My husband and I have both had some unexpected bursts of anger in the last few months. I lost my job and the doctor does not want me to work any longer. I now realize our anger has probably been fear.
I am so enjoying these devotions!
I’m glad you have been finding them helpful. I am telling you, learning that fear is behind anger has been a complete eye-opener and game changer for me.
I love this affirmation.
Once, I shared with a trusted friend, how I was struggling with a loved one’s terrible mood. She said to me, “He is trying to communicate with you but doesn’t really know how.” That made all the difference in how I perceived this person and their angry behavior. My heart became tender at once and my reaction in kind healed the situation.
Aside from sleep/nap deprivation, I believe that most of my angry outbursts stem from fear. And very often, fear distorts things. If only I could stop and say, “Okay God, what is it that I am afraid of?”
“He is trying to communicate with you but doesn’t really know how.”
Oh my goodness truth!
Yes!! Fear distorts!! Exactly. I love how you can come in and make sense of what I’m thinking.
I love that comment…”If you judge people you have no time to love them”…How hard it is to live them sometimes…
It’s very hard to live it. Thanks be to God He keeps giving me opportunities 😉
Oh my goodness yes! Didn’t Mother Angelica say something about how we’d all be saints if it weren’t for having to love other people?!
Thanks for sharing about your Lent studies. (I tried to make my #3 baby my first without an epidural, too, but failed in the end – He was 10#4!) We would love for you to link up your Bible-based posts like this (or any other literary-related post) at our Literacy Musing Mondays Linkup #LMMLinkup http://www.foreverjoyful.net/?p=846
You didn’t fail momma, your plans changed 😉